Repost from @thematthewhussey
Just because we felt an incredible connection in a moment or had a great time with somebody doesn't mean they're going to be someone who invests in us.
We can't let our desire for affection and companionship outweigh the duty we have to honor our own needs.
We take that duty seriously when we truly learn to love ourselves.
Can you relate?
🦓 Whenever I talk to someone about going to therapy, the usual response tends to be something like ”I’m so sorry to hear that”, general awkwardness, or various alternatives of ”oh no, why?”
🦓 Those responses always catch me off guard. People tend to assume that going to therapy automatically means that you’re in a very dark place mentally - and this way of thinking discourages so many people from going to therapy, because they don’t feel ”unwell” enough.
🦓 Or, on the other hand, even if someone IS in a dark place AND is actively choosing to seek help, why on earth would you feel sorry for them? 👀 Isn’t it awesome that they’re working on themselves? Isn’t that something to be proud of? (rhetorical question; it IS awesome.)
🦓 I’d love to hear your thoughts on this! What’s the ideal response you’d like to hear from people? Any awkward moments when talking about your therapy journey?
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If someone minimizes your pain, if they tell you to get over it, if they bring up that it happened “forever ago,” if they remind you “so and so was able to move on,” if they insist they had it worse, if they mention that you “seem fine,” if they promise to support you but never truly show up, if they share your secrets or gossip behind your back, if they try to “fix you,” if they don’t respect your need for boundaries, if they don’t understand why you no longer want to live in chaos, if they make you feel like a burden…
Kindly move on.
Sweet friend, some people are meant to be a part of your story, but that doesn’t mean they also get to be a part of your healing. Because some people, THOSE people, were only meant to get access to the unhealed version of you. They don’t deserve anything more.
But you do. I promise you do.
And if you have no one else, if you feel like you wouldn’t survive without them & their disfunction…message me. Reach out. I can guide you to support. Because you don’t have to go this alone. 💛
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