I was reminded of this blog I wrote for @first1000days a while back - full article in my stories
What use is encouraging women to breastfeed if at every corner they face barriers in their way? At its least the simplistic ‘breast is best’ message is useless, and at its worst it can cause significant harm. Messages urging women to breastfeed do nothing to enable them to do so. If we instill a belief that breastfeeding is important but then have little investment in giving families the best possible start, then that is inhumane.
Too many women start out wanting to breastfeed but stop before they are ready through no fault of their own, leaving them with a whole host of negative emotions from guilt through to failure and anger.
We need to take a different approach to this public health issue by creating a culture that nurtures and protects rather than simply promotes breastfeeding.
What good is a desire to breastfeed if health services are not in place to support mothers to get breastfeeding off to the best start and to support problems if they arise?
What good is it if family and friends continually try to persuade the mother to give formula, particularly in response to normal baby behaviour that won’t get ‘fixed’ by a bottle?
What good is it if the public harass her when she feeds outside the home?
What good is it if she has to go back to work and her employer makes no adjustments at all?
What good is it if she is continually pulled in all directions and urged to ‘get her life back’ rather than being nurtured and cared for through this transition?
If we want to encourage breastfeeding, we need to create an environment in which breastfeeding can flourish. We need to move our focus away from breastfeeding as an individual mothering issue and consider how we make changes at the social, economic, and political levels that allow breastfeeding to thrive.
This means targeting the knowledge, attitudes and behaviours of family members, the general public, employers and those policy makers who have it in their power to make change on a grand scale.
11 hours ago
I can’t leave the room without you crying for me. As soon as I’m out of sight, your heart hurts. It worries I won’t come back.
I tell you I’ll only be a minute. I need longer sometimes. But I don’t take it. I pick you up and we do it together. It takes longer. It’s harder. But I choose it because it’s easier on my heart.
I can’t put you down at night without you needing me later. You search for my skin. I wake immediately to the slightest of whispers. Perhaps it’s because we’re still as one. I like to think of it that way. I drag myself out of bed on autopilot, search for my robe, then your tiny body. I hold you close, as the tired holds onto me. You rest there, and I rest knowing I’m still your safe place.
I can’t put you down for more than a few minutes without you begging me to carry you. You don’t like feeling like you’re missing out. You want to see things from my level. You want to know that I’m still your legs, arms, and priority.
It can be hard on me, but it’s easy to forget how much you need me right now.
So I remind myself. I carry you. And we carry on being each other’s priority.
I can’t shower each morning without you wanting to get in with me. I shower you with toys on the bathroom floor, but I’m not close enough. You want in too. You try to open the doors, and plead with me to let you in. I turn off the tap, shampoo still not rinsed out and legs half-shaven. You smile as I pick you up with barely a towel covering me, wet foot prints on the carpet left in a trail behind us.
All you want me is me to shower you with my love, time, and care.
I can’t do a single thing without you crawling all over me. And often I feel so touched out. So out of touch with myself. I can feel suffocated by being needed so intensely. But as we pace the hallway looking at photos of the smaller you, I’m reminded that this intensity won’t last. It will fade too quickly. And all we’ll have are frames filled with memories of how I wore you for years, and how you were the only outfit that aged, but was timeless.
I can’t do much without needing to be your everything right now.
But it’s ok,
Because being that is everything to me too.
Pinch me moment for us!
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