Doing what is best for you won't feel good at first if your pattern has been to please others.
People-pleasers are well-known for going out of their way to make others happy. As a child, those patterns were developed in order to feel safe. And that’s OK - it was a necessary coping mechanism. Today, though, you may notice that going too far to please others can leave you emotionally tired, stressed, and anxious.
So be aware when that tendency comes up. You don’t have to agree to everything that is requested of you just to avoid rejection or to be well-regarded by others. It’s more important to make the choice to recognize your own needs and act on them. Yes, there may be some friction that comes up. Others may be used to you always being there or responding in a certain way. But you are not living their life; you are living yours. It's OK to move forward even when everyone does not understand or even care to. You no longer need to hold onto relationships that siphon your energy. Set your boundaries and remember, your job is not to please the world; it’s to tap into your own capacity for self-acceptance, growth and love, on your terms. Even if it’s temporarily uncomfortable, you owe it to your future self to live authentically right now.
Say yes if you are willing to step away from people-pleasing.
Life is a trip. What a rollercoaster. It has its ups and downs. But it’s your choice to scream or enjoy the ride.
When you see it this way, it all makes sense and you can truly see how beautiful and great life really is. Yet we let any struggle or hardship destroy us because we don’t see what life is trying to teach us. Insane to see that such hardships can bring joy to your life once you take the lessons from them.
When times are really bad, we forget they are ever going to be good again. When times are really good, we forget they are going to be bad again. We must always remember that.