Every night at dinner time we ask each other “how was your day? What was your favourite part? And what could have been better?”
This is a really good way for us to share our ups and downs with each other, and to teach you that it is ok to talk about your feelings;
what made you feel joy and smile, and what made you sad or angry, and why…
Doing it every day at the same time makes it consistent, and with us adults sharing our feelings, we hope it will set up good habits for you to feel comfortable sharing any trials or tribulations you may have later in life.
🤍 It is ok to not be ok 🤍
Staying healthy is about so much more than exercise and good food.
That’s why Countdown have partnered with the Mental Health Foundation to raise money to support Kiwis’ Mental Health, on a mission to create healthier communities.
Countdown and the Mental Health Foundation are encouraging kiwis to have a regular ‘cuppa and kōrero’ (chat) with friends and whānau to ensure we all have someone to listen.
For me personally, I always try and nail the following S’s to ensure I have mental clarity and positive head space:
- Sweat (exercise)
- Speak (talk about it)
- Sunshine (get vitamin d)
- Soak (swim, bath, shower)
- Stay hydrated (drink plenty of water)
- Sounds (crank up the music)
- Sex (intimate connection)
IG whānau: How many of the S’s do you regularly do, and what are your key tips for staying on top of your mental health?
You can donate to the Mental Health Foundation by rounding up your next Countdown shopping bill or donating online at countdown.co.nz/foodforgood
Alone we are strong. Together we are stronger.
Love from your dads xx
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What did you observe growing up? Have you seen that influence your way of being? Whether we reenact or completely resist, we get impacted by our environments. My early developmental experiences, just like yours, set the stage for my perfectionism as a safety mechanism and form of control in my life. This led to an eating disorder, anxiety, and a completely loss of self through over performing to secure my worth.
Since recovering from my eating disorder, I’ve been deconstructing my beliefs and behaviors. I learned that Social learning theory explains that we observe and model behavior as part of cognitive and social development. Did you observe chaos, outbursts, rage, explosion? How about suppression, avoidance, minimizing, denial, rejection? What emotional regulation skills were modeled, or not modeled, in your home and how did that impact your personal emotional regulation?
The good news is we can learn skills, tools, & strategies to cope with our emotions. We can learn communication. We can learn distress tolerance. We can learn to respond instead of react. We can build the skill set with repetition, practice, effort, and consistency. We can build a relationship with ourselves, make peace with our minds and emotions, and learn how to work with them!
I re-enacted what I observed most of my life. I was pretty explosive. I had zero emotional regulation understanding and my impulses and passion ran me. Through therapy and studying psychology and counseling, I learned how to navigate my experiences by better feeling dealing and healing. I learned skills to regulate when I was out of whack. I’m still passionate and emotional; but I rarely get swept away out of my conscious awareness and ability to regulate. I now know what I feel, why, where it is in my body, and how to process, express, deal, cope, and integrate it. Healing is ongoing bc humans gonna human. #feeldealheal
There’s a course for this, I created my courses to make mental health skills available outside of therapy. Grab my emotional regulation course as a starter! It’s my most popular course 💓