Have you ever heard of flight, fight, or freeze? During times of crisis, chaos, and traumatic experiences we enter “survival mode.” You might have heard this phrase before; but what does it mean? When we experience stressful events our brains being to function in a different capacity. It is important to mention that these experiences can either be real life threats or perceived treats to our safety; our brain does not always differentiate between them, it just reacts
Finding ways to self-sooth, find support, and calm your nervous system is key 🗣🔥
Sources: CGRG, Psychologytoday
11 hours ago
***~~~~REMINDER****~~~~Separating from your thoughts will change your life. Anxious thoughts are invasive and often not rooted in truth and reality.
They can overwhelm you and cause major overthinking. Learning to write down what it is that you’re feeling and naming your feelings and emotions helps tremendously in better understanding yourself. Every behavior is communicating a need. Every thought is communicating a deeper insecurity or fear. Get curious about yourself. Start questioning your thought rather that immediately believing them all.
18 hours ago
Many of us are quite familiar with fight or flight responses and how they play out in our lives after trauma ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
Freeze is a little less understood and it can be easy to disregard as playing a real part in our lives. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
Freezing as a response to a threat is a sort of primal “playing dead” in the face of danger protective mechanism. Have you ever seen a deer in headlights? That is the freeze response. A threat is sensed but we are destabilised & frozen: unable to fight or flee⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
In humans freezing manifests as an inability to communicate, react, or take any action of self-preservation or defense⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
When a child is subjected to emotional or physical abuse by someone or something it cannot defend itself from, they are left feeling helpless, unable to tap into the biological systems designed to assist them in either fighting or fleeing⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
This can lead to a wired natural state of paralysis or “tonic immobility”- something that is otherwise counter-intuitive for a human in the presence of danger⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
In other words, a child that suffered from constant anxiety and fear due to trauma may develop a tendency to freeze as a response to triggers as an adult. This may surface in different forms:⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
➕feeling zoned out ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
➕going through periods of no productivity⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
➕feeling stuck in a certain part of the body⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
➕feeling cold or numb ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
➕stiffness or heaviness of limbs⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
➕restricted breathing or holding of the breath⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
➕sense of dread⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
➕decreased heart rate⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
➕wanting to be alone ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
➕inability to make decisions ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
➕having no emotions/ feeling blank ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
Remember this is a powerful protective response and is not your fault⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
Have you experienced the freeze response?
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We know that writing down or speaking out our worries takes power away from them. Shame cannot thrive in the light. When we bring our fears out in the open, we feel a little bit lighter. There is a little more space to breathe. Big or small, catastrophic or not, feel free to share with us. This beautiful community is here to listen without judgment. You are not alone in this.
Shaley & Julie xx