This is my coming out, please be kind. This is one of the hardest decisions and actions I’ve ever taken in my life. It’s been a chain of sleepless nights, weeks of overthinking, and very big emotions. It’s paralyzing to put my most vulnerable and personal out in the world, but it is time.
In the link in my bio you can find a 17 minute audio this post is an excerpt from, where I explain more about personal truth and what mine actually means. It is an end of an era, but the start of alignment. I hope I can share my magic with you. Thank you for being here♥️
I’ve never seen a photo of a famous, attractive man in various stages of undress with comments like “I remember when people used to have dignity instead of being cheap and vulgar, cover up, nobody wants to see this” and I have never seen a photo of a famous, attractive woman showing skin WITHOUT the same.
It’s almost like it’s not about nudity, it’s about controlling women. Who knows…
(Original image with photos: @ask_aubry )
Nobody - I repeat - NOBODY HAS HER SHIT TOGETHER. The 50’s housewives were on lithium and the influencers with soft voices who bake their own bread have a commercial brand to uphold.
You can’t fail as a wife or a mother, because you are doing the absolute best you can with the tools that you were given. The way to fail is to fail yourself - by self-abandoning, by living for others’ expectations instead of living your truth, or by choosing unhappiness not to rock the boat.
If you are in a marriage where you prioritize each others needs and wellbeing, appreciate and uplift one another, support each other, make each other feel seen and heard, inspire each other to be the best version of yourselves (not to please others, for you), where you both feel safe even in hardships and conflicts, you are winning. That’s the important bit.
So order that pizza instead of cooking and put those sweatpants on, the perfect wife isn’t a cosplay of perfection you have to live up to to be good enough according to society, the perfect wife is you.
I have a 90 second time limit so I had to edit out “Can cook and clean” and “Doesn’t nag”.
So be a modest virgin who does all domestic labour and child rearing without ever being moody, dealing with past trauma, or expressing any needs, who is slim, fit, with perfect smooth skin, a surgeon designed labia, and a perfect PH for smelling like roses downstairs, be good in bed and too weak to run away and HAVE BODY HAIR. Did you pass?
Congratulations on running a marathon and baby number three, you are fantastic, I’m wholeheartedly happy for you and so proud of you, but I would rather be locked in a phone booth with a rabid raccoon and juggle burning coal while listening to elevator music for a week straight than to have your life.
This is gratitude and empathy combined btw don’t let the attitude fool you😃
❗️TW: SA
The questions:
• Do you make sure you NEVER disclose your location in real time on social media?
• If a stranger asks where do you live, do you give them a vague neighbourhood/area and not the exact street?
• Do you carry any self-defense tools with you? (Keys in knuckle count too)
• When traveling solo do you stay in hotels instead of airbnbs, because 24/7 reception gives you a sense of safety?
• Do you text your friends and family about your whereabouts at night, especially if you’re on a date with someone new?
• Do you make sure NEVER to leave your drinks unattended?
• Have you ever made outfit decisions based on whether you would be assaulted for “asking for it”?
• Do you know or have met at least ten person of the same gender as you who have been harassed or sexually assaulted?
• Have you ever engaged in a sexual act not because you wanted to, but because you didnt feel like you could say no?
Ps. Deal with the mess of a hair, I’m trying to surface my natural curl patterns and it’s a chaotic endeavor😃