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10 years ago I remember sitting at my kitchen table with my husband and my dad. It was at a time when I knew things weren’t right between me and my husband, but I was just so broken and I didn’t even realise how bad.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ My dad was trying to help our marriage and see how he could help and my husband looked my dad in the eye and said he loved me and would never do anything to hurt me.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ I sat numb and helpless whilst my husband charmed my father into believing him.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ 2 weeks later, my husband took less than 10 minutes to tell me and my kids that he was leaving.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ I’m not sure where I summoned my strength as he told me to just tell the kids he was leaving for work early as he had for the last 6 months but this time I said “no”. You tell them this time.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ You see I had been in a cycle for years being promised that he’d make an effort, promise to change, promise that he’d never do anything like that again.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Promise⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Promise⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Promise⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ But you see words are easy.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Actions speak louder than words.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ If you keep hearing the same words with the same action and you are feeling numb, broken and helpless, it’s time for you to change your words and action.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Take those first tiny steps because YOU deserve so much more from your life ❤️ 🦋⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ #trauma #emdrtherapy #emdr #rtt #rapidtransformationaltherapy #codependency #gaslighting #cognitivedissonance #psychologicalabuse #ptsd #ptsdsurvivor #cptsdrecovery #complexptsd #traumahealing #divorcerecovery #ptsdawareness #positivepsychology #covertnarcissisticabuse
Amen
2 years ago
I should share a letter I got. Lie after lie.
2 years ago
Your highly unlikely to see it
2 years ago
This! I needed reminding of this so much today, thank you 👏
2 years ago
I've experienced this with Alcoholism as well.
2 years ago
❤️
2 years ago