Vienna Pharaon | Marriage & Family Therapist

@mindfulmft

Break Patterns & Thrive in Your Relationships Podcast Host: This Keeps Happening' Best Selling Author 'The Origins Of You' 👇🏼 Grab Your Copy
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@goodmorningamerica thank you for having me and highlighting my debut book, The Origins of You!!! Now on sale anywhere books are sold. Grab your copy! What a special time this has been, truly. I’m just soaking in these moments, and I’m so grateful to have you on my journey. Your celebrations and DMs of receiving the book are so special. Please keep them coming and message me with whatever it is that’s resonating and giving you an ooof moment. And THANK YOU for making the book an immediate best seller on day one! Keep spreading the word. X With deep gratitude, Vienna #mindfulmft #theoriginsofyou #gma
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Podcast Announcement 🎉 I had never been called to start a podcast. But when the idea of creating a show where I spoke with guests for a one time one hour consultation surfaced, I was intrigued. Although the episodes might resemble a session, there’s so much that is different. Actually, I find this much more challenging. This show isn’t therapy. There’s no trust or safety established over time. There’s no reconnecting next week. There’s no building upon what we learn. What it is is strangers coming together to see what might just be accomplished in a one hour conversation. I was a bit skeptical. I don’t know these people. I don’t know their story. I get two sentences about them before we begin, and there isn’t much time. We don’t do big edits or trims to highlight aha moments. We give you what it’s like to have a raw, real conversation with someone. So why do it? Because one new thought, one different approach, one shift in perspective is all it takes to consider something new. And what I’ve found so far is that one conversation can actually shift something. And listening to someone else’s story, someone else’s process can open something up for you or someone you care deeply about. I can’t wait for you to listen. If you’re interested in being a part of the show and want to have an anonymous conversation with me, leave a brief voicemail with your name, contact information, and best time/way to reach you at 206-984-3662 (206-9-V-I-E-N-N-A) to be considered for my podcast. The podcast producers will reach out to you if chosen. Trailer is now available wherever you get your podcasts! First episode launches September 27th! 🎉
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🎉Podcast Drop🎉 Today marks the launch of my new podcast, “This Keeps Happening” Episode One JUST dropped and it’s a conversation you don’t want to miss - Link in bio to listen! 🚀🚀 I talked to Michelle (her alias) about:  🎙️ Why sometimes we’re an open book and can overshare information but actually have a lot of difficulty trusting others 🎙️How we focus on other people’s pain to distract ourselves from our own (& how to break this pattern!)  🎙️How coping with the loss of a parent or relative can lead to self-blame (even though we rationally know we are not to blame) 🎙️How to reconnect with her inner 14-year-old self, who has been running the show lately, so she can be the parent that teenager never got.  
The big aha that I have with Michelle (which I think you’ll really relate to)...You can either be driven by your pain or by your healing.  Thank you for your incredible support. Don’t forget to tune in and leave a review! Link in bio to listen to episode one!! I can’t wait for you to listen. 🎧✨ #ThisKeepsHappening #PodcastLaunch #RealConversations
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Our Collective Q&A gives us a glimpse into how the longevity experts we know and love implement small, healthy habits into their days. Recently, we tapped marriage + family therapist @mindfulmft . Our newsletter the long game clears clutter, infuses joy, and welcomes *everyone* (not just biohacking bros) into the longevity conversation. Subscribe at the link in bio for more Collective Q&As!
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Think about the last time you had conflict. What was the thing that really revved your engine? It's incredibly easy to get stuck focusing on what the other person did to us. Have you ever noticed how when we're thinking about conflict it's far easier to focus on what the other person did wrong as opposed to how we contributed to it? I've been guilty of it too. But what I'd like us to consider is something that holds us much closer to our own internal worlds and workings. Instead of getting lost in the other person, I'd love for you to inquire about what the conflict activated within you within the context of your origin wounds. Are you left questioning your worth, your sense of belonging, whether you're a priority, whether you can trust , or whether you're safety or security is being threatened. I ask you this because your reactivity will generally be responding to one of the above. The way we engage in conflict will be a form of self protection when our wounds are in the driver seat. We're responding to feeling unworthy, not belonging, de-prioritized, not trusting, and unsafe. And when we have a history with these things, no wonder we move into a space of wanting protect them — sometimes at all costs. I dive deep into this in my book, The Origins of You, especially the chapter on conflict. But for now I'd like you to try to identify the wound that was activated during the last time you had conflict. And then, I'd like you to identify what it is you were left questioning about yourself. I'm going to offer you some prompts from the book here: The wound that got activated was ____ I can see that now because ____ I move into conflict because ____ But what that winds up doing is ____ What I'm really feeling insecure about or questioning is ____ What I want you to really understand about me is ____ If I replace my protection mechanism with my emotional need, I learn that ____ Beautiful work. #mindfulmft #theoriginsofyou
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Swipe to listen to a bit of my conversation with Paige (that’s her alias) from today’s episode of This Keeps Happening. Anyone struggle with control? Anyone struggle setting boundaries with a parent? Anyone worry about hurting your child in the same way that you were hurt/let down/disappointed as a child yourself? Gosh…Paige and I get into it and I hope that you’ll take a listen to this episode. #mindfulmft #ThisKeepsHappening
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Coming in hot on a Tuesday. I’m liking this series on brave questions to ask in relationship. These questions are not for the faint of heart. Brave, courageous, relational questions, my friends. Feedback is often an invitation for shame, guilt, embarrassment, defensiveness, etc to enter in. To receive the answer to any of these questions might be really uncomfortable, deeply confronting. And yet, that’s not a reason to avoid inquiring. You must have compassion and grace for yourself. It’s a tender, tender place to ask someone you love to give you feedback. Tell me how you really feel. Tell me what it’s been like to be with me. Tell me what I’ve been missing…in you…and in me. Tell me so I can face it and confront it. Not so I can shame myself or go into a space of self-protection. I know this is not easy. And even if you’re not quite ready to ask the questions out loud, notice what the sensations in your body are communicating to you. What are they revealing? Notice your reactivity to these questions and what information it offers to you? What are you protecting yourself from by not asking? Be gentle with yourself here. #mindfulmft
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Systems love status quo. You know this already. So when something shifts in the name of expansion and healing, the rest of the folks in the system rarely like it or know what to do with it. But what I want to talk about today is that role changes, or simply choosing differently, is rarely experienced as a deeply liberating, never felt better, mic drop moment. This is important. Because usually a moment of expansion (us doing something something different for the first time…trying it out) is met with a contraction. Think “what the hell did I just do” or… “was that a mistake” or “oh no, people are upset with me” or “I should go back to the old ways” or or or. There's very little that's romantic in the moments directly following an expansion. I share this with you because a lot of times in a contraction is where we start to second guess ourselves. Think: If this doesn't feel good then it might be a mistake. So today is about normalizing the non mic drop moment. It's about reminding you that just because something feels a little terrifying after you did the new thing for the first time, does not mean you're on the wrong path. #mindfulmft
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What would you add to this list on the path to reclaiming your worth? It’s so easy to outsource it, to exist in the conditional space, to believe that your worth and value is determined by your performance, perfection, people pleasing, or adaptation to what those around you need from you. It can be so hard to tolerate these shifts, and yet the work is to safely move in that direction. Are you signed up for my free newsletter? Comment “NEWSLETTER” to sign up below. I’m going to be talking about being available for love. #mindfulmft
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Families are complicated but reconciliation is possible if you want it. @mindfulmft shares the signs you could be ready to make amends with your estranged family in the article linked in our bio ❤️.
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I'm exploring this through a family system's lens. That does not mean that trust ruptures couldn't have happened in your romantic relationships as a twenty something year old, or when your business partner betrayed you, or when your friend kept a significant secret from you a few years back. There's so much that can contribute to our doubt and uncertainty, but you know that I love to look through the lens of our family systems as a starting place and acknowledge and connect with its impact if it's there. Do any of these resonate with you? What would you add to this non-exhaustive list? And in what ways has the rupture of trust kept you from living as freely as you'd like? If you want to dive in deeper into the trust wound and how to heal and repair it, check out my book, The Origins of You, which is temporarily on its biggest sale ever. Comment BOOK below and I'll send you a link! #mindfulmft #theoriginsofyou
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We wanted to bring on @mindfulmft not only because she’s the best of the best when it comes to marriage and family therapy but because we knew it would be really interesting to have her perspective on the psychology behind the behavior of someone who lies about their life. If you haven’t yet checked out the episode with @reesateesa make sure you do so in the link in bio. 💋
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